The innocence behind some of America’s anti-trans cultural shift
We increasingly hear attacks on transgender people coming from our government. What follows is how I, as a Conservative woman, am making the case for peaceful compromise.
From the perspective of a transgender person or a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, the world seemingly grows bleaker with each month. Openly expressed desires to strip our freedoms, erase us from public life, and label us as incapable of making our own decisions seem to be coming from all levels of society- ruffling feathers across America. What our country needs is a moment of pause to understand the why so that our Union can be preserved and people can peacefully coexist with one another.
My desire to reflect on this phenomenon first came to me after experiencing incomprehensible verbal abuse directed at trans-women. I pondered, enjoying the breeze afforded to my dog and I as we played fetch. Refusing to focus on where we philosophically disagreed, I sought to reasonably discern her motive. Why care so much about how other people pursue happiness? Why view trans womens’ existence as a threat to all? I recalled that as she antagonized me, I bore witness brief moments of vulnerability in her body language. I could discern that she in fact possessed envy. I was bewildered and when asked for confirmation of my suspicions, she replied agreement. For the very first time I did not see cisgender women as superior to me, I instead saw her darwinistic perspective that there could actually be reasons to envy a trans woman from a cisgender female perspective. I was bewildered. I traced the source of her fear back to the American culture she and I shared during our formative years.
As I empathized with her needs, her fears, and her goals, she increasingly looked innocent to me. I drew circles of overlap where we had things in common: We both desire to reverse the decline of the nuclear family’s rate of successful, continuous bonding; which is contributing to a rise in divorce rates. We both desire to be safe while using rest-facilities, desire for strong men to lead our household, are responsive to men and women being equal in the workplace and in the eyes of the law, but desire to be feminine as opposed to men and only find masculine men attractive. We both seemingly realize that when coupled up with the right man, we not only become more accommodating, reliable, proactive, loving, and even behaviorally stable; but our differences intensify. We have been enlightened to how natural such coupling feels having been involved with real gentlemen, and we act on feminine intuition. We both envision societies all across America filled with households who reflect traditional male-female roles and responsibilities, and we both desire for the proliferation of this culture. We think strong boys build a strong country and we have always naturally filled a supportive role in the lives of the boys around us beginning at a young age. I just so happen to be transgender, but my desires for home life can be traced back to childhood. I have been in search of my “Sparky”🎅🏽 since Eddy showed up to Clark’s house unannounced.
If you perceive yourself as belonging to a culture that is different from what I’ve already outlined, read carefully so that I can help you come to understand why those who are seemingly in opposition to you shall be heard.
White settlers, (while guilty of treating the Indigenous Americans, Africans, and Asians no less than what I would call, inhumanely) have passed down beliefs, traditions, and values from one generation to the next. Beliefs, traditions, and values pertaining to men and women’s place in society. These people also created and brought with them institutions and bonds that historically played a greater role in each realm of America’s success than anything else. These people have given birth to generation after generation of America’s majority and make up what, insofar as I can tell, 60% of the voting population. They have no desire to see their culture change so quickly, and have become so reactive to society’s evolution that some have begun to lay the groundwork to control culture legislatively. A huge betrayal of the principle that a government which stays out of your business, is a Conservative one.
Furthermore, these people gave birth to institutions that have been responsible for the quality of American life throughout our country’s maturing, especially the preservation of ideals and laws which protect our freedoms and bless mankind with the enlightenment that democracy is the only way forward. Private companies, banks, places of worship- historically shaping both the student and the teacher, and higher education enterprises which produce intelligent researchers are not going anywhere anytime soon. These people to date have become married to families of all shapes, sizes, and colors. Among us -as I view myself a product of this culture, there is a natural desire to return to the appreciation of traditional gender-norms and to enjoy the thrill of the constant affirmations (raised eyebrow) that result from intensifying masculine and feminine qualities in each of the sexes, in media and at home. We recognize that the people participating in this movement believe it is instinctive to desire an exclusively male-female world because it seems to be pertinent to human evolution and/or from a religious point of view: is as God “intended” or “natural.” Furthermore the men on our side of the cultural aisle, view the embrace of hypermasculine hyperfeminine culture as base; meaning, inevitably fulfilled without thinking. Us women are allowed to sit passenger princess, adorned, respected, and feeling- gasp Affirmed.
For me, nothing is more natural, than to live on the feminine side of nature. Where only my emotions (EGO) dare demand monogamy from a man, my body (or my ID) on the other hand can become so satisfied through experiencing someone biologically superior- especially when it comes to strength, that the cavewoman in me quickly becomes espoused to the belief that he should be satisfied. Always. I am obviously submissive to his desires. While I would be rejected by many on both sides of the aisle for either my identity or the beliefs I am espoused to regarding this topic- I feel that within these held beliefs is a way forward for the country. A way that is respectful, a way that is legal, and above all- a way that is truly loving of the freedoms God has bestowed upon us.
To the Right, I say fight to protect traditionally all-cisgender-female spaces, enjoy yourselves, enjoy each other, and freely live out our own culture for generations to come. To the Left I say, “slow up”. You may believe that politically we should be taking turns… but we are in fact not. Our shared vision for a perfectly safe and accepting society seems to traverse a path not yet taken in our country or even our species’ history, and happens to be resulting in so much pushback that we are witnessing an all-out attack on our freedoms.
Let’s speak about the reality of the conservative majority on the Supreme Court, the wave of Red in congress and statehouses across the country, and do not forget that we are in fact rooted in and riding the success-wave of a Western world order, older than most history books in existence. We are not fascists, We are not socialists, nor are We communists. We are America: a mostly Christian, Capitalist Empire. We are always at least one step right of center when compared to the other nations and We continue to enjoy freedoms afforded to us by honest governors throughout our history. We have so much self-control that we seek the separation of church and state, and until recently we have always sought the benefits of small government. These merits make America superior to any other nation, help us lead the world and protect the weak- two parts of God’s willful Crusade. We have never been perfect, but we are yet a Light on Earth. I am espoused to the belief that we need these ideals in order for our country to keep succeeding in a world such as ours.
To lend some credibility to the root cause of the rhetoric we hear on social media regarding trans people- you should understand that the people who compose this movement to oppose trans womens’ integration into women’s sports, locker rooms or rest facilities, are not some foreign entity. They do not come from abroad. They are The People, and therefore should not be ignored.
a divided America is a heart of two parts, not One.
This cultural desire for a return to a familiar separation of male and female is in fact an impassioned one. As a result of extreme, opposing beliefs this fight has led to alarming political developments that have vast implications for the future our country: From the careless proliferation of verifiably manufactured information by influencers and Congressional members, to a frustration with protections of doctor-patient privacy and autonomy afforded to adults, to a seeming desire to round up, brand, and track trans people as if a tactic from the playbook of Nazis this competition with one another has reached the point of reckless.
The mobilization of white, young, male voters who are gravitating to the Right, the hyper-masculinzation and femeninization each sex in portions of the media, the seeming widespread desire to regulate the cultural aspects of gender in one way or another, and the conservative majority on the US Supreme Court mean this is an opportunity for conservative trans women to show up and educated. The time is now for compromise and to reasonably negotiate our (trans people’s) continued, peaceful existence among the masses.
This division without respect for one another will continue to fracture the country, but the Union must be preserved at almost any cost. A divided America is a heart of two parts, not One. Expiration of the belief that We are One Nation will be the end of patriots who are capable of, and desiring to: inspire all of us, collectively.
I came to understand the seeming bigotry on display by that woman to be the result of internal friction, rooted in her heart’s desire to be preservative of her own culture. She was also brought to such a point by her frustrations with those who sought to make her feel as though she was unreasonable for rejecting the compromises asked of her- in previously unfathomable places such as the restroom and lockeroom to boot. She was also reluctant to abandon the notion that she would truly feel cheated should she ever lose to a trans woman in the sports arena- especially to one who benefitted from testosterone driven puberty.
To my continued surprise, she further implied that she was jealous of my physical strength, which supposedly makes my life easier and makes her feel inferior and less safe. She expressed jealousy that men would increasingly begin to fantasize about the freedom to be more sexually active- never having to plan a family with a woman like me incapable of pregnancy. I realized her humanity and we embraced each other philosophically. We sat crosslegged, cerebrally, and empathized with each other. No longer feeling a threatening air between us.
I knew instinctively that if I were a cisgender female, I would honestly see it her way too. Seemingly each trans-woman has the power to be unreasonably destructive to many cisgender girls’ realities. From possible subjugation in private spaces, to dealing out more frequent athletic defeats, to distracting men who should be imbued with the desire to be loyal supporters of their families (our culture).
To our country I say, that our path forward necessitates we more frequently recognize each others’ innocence. Realistically, more data is needed in order to inform the legislative solutions to these problems. I believe that some states will ban trans women and men from using the bathroom associated with their gender identities, and others will not. I believe that integration of trans women in women’s sports should not be supported, in most cases beyond 8th grade, while other states are free to experiment with the comparable athleticism of trans girls who benefit from puberty blockers which will inform more precise and accepting regulation. I believe that women who receive their surgeries should be physiologically identified as female or male, and that medical charts could accommodate our culturally relevant interest in sex as related to chromosomes. I believe that, given our bodies are imbued with both estrogen and testosterone naturally , we should be free to choose which of the two is dominant.
